Farmhouse Green Plum

Chapter 509 Persuasion (3)

After taking a breath, Mrs. Tao continued, "You often say that you want our family to become a noble family in the future, so we must also pay attention to these rules and etiquette.

You learn from them, and your wife teaches the next generation. After two or three generations, our family will be the same as those aristocratic families today."

Finally reaching the most crucial point, Yuan Qing deliberately remained silent for a moment, then sighed and said, "My grandson was too naive before. I've been to the Shen Mansion frequently lately, and now I realize that although it may appear prosperous on the surface, it's actually no longer doing well."

"Why is it not possible? Didn't you say before that the prefect and the county magistrate would come to visit in person?" Tao couldn't help but feel a little nervous.

Over the years, because of the example of Shen Zhuangyuan, she was able to firmly reject one good daughter-in-law candidate after another. If this example was not...

She didn't dare to think about it.

"When Shen Zhuangyuan's family moved back home, they said it was because their grandma had passed away and they were returning to their hometown to observe mourning. But several years have passed, and the mourning period has long passed, but Shen Zhuangyuan has not yet returned to his job.

At present, his family only has a son-in-law serving as an official in the court. The eldest master of the Shen family got a sinecure by virtue of favor and did not go to the government office. Now the Shen family is supported by the Shunan County Lady. When the Shunan County Lady grows old, the Shen family will gradually become an ordinary family.

This shows that marrying a noble lady does not guarantee a long career; one's career still depends on oneself. My grandson has confidence that he can go far on his own in the future."

Tao was greatly shocked. The Shen family, who had been so high and mighty and whom she had looked up to for so long, was about to collapse!

Shen Zhuangyuan is the golden phoenix of the surrounding area. Being the number one scholar, can it only guarantee that his family will prosper for three generations?

Doesn't this mean that even if your grandson passes the imperial examination, he can only be rich for a few generations before he has to become a peasant again?

The Tao family couldn't accept this. It had taken three generations of their family's efforts to raise such a scholar. But even if he became the top scholar, it would only bring prosperity to the family for three generations. How could this be possible?

Seeing that Tao was shaken, Yuan Qing hurried to comfort her, "If our family wants to maintain prosperity for generations to come, we must consider the long term. When Mr. He arranged for his son to marry the Xu family girl from Xinghua Village, it was for the long term consideration."

Tao's mind was a little slow due to the collapse of his faith, and he didn't understand why he brought up the He family.

"There's a saying that goes, 'A cowardly father influences the whole family, a cowardly mother influences three generations.' A wife can influence at least three generations. That's why the ancients said you should marry a virtuous woman.

Song Ying was not only literate and well-mannered, but she also rose from a peasant girl to become the renowned miracle doctor she is today, and was even able to start her own business. The children she raised must all be talented.

If the offspring have a promising future, even if the grandchildren are limited by their family background and do not go far in their careers, the younger generations will be able to go further based on the foundation laid by the grandchildren.

As long as one of our descendants is promising, our family won't face the same predicament as the Shen family. Furthermore, I believe that under her upbringing, my grandchildren will be no worse off, just like you. It's because of your guidance that I'm where I am today."

In fact, Tao Shi didn't quite understand the second half, but she often heard the villagers say "the father is a coward, and the mother is a coward for three generations" ever since Mr. He arranged for his son to marry the girl from the Xu family.

She also understands that marrying a good wife can help bring up three generations of the family, and she thinks she is a good example.

Before she married into the family, the Yuan family was as soft as tofu and could be bullied by anyone.

She was strong-willed by nature, and had to put aside her shyness when she was a bride. She had a few fights with the villagers to let them know that she was not someone to be bullied!

Unfortunately, the temperaments of the men in this family are inherited, and the son did not learn any of her temper. Fortunately, he is also a scholar and does not argue with others. He can be said to be a gentleman of scholarly manners.

But her two daughters are like her, and have been hot-tempered since childhood, so they don’t have to worry about being bullied after they get married.

Her grandson inherited her genes. He looks gentle and easy to talk to, but he is actually very opinionated. He is well-educated and has a lot of big principles to talk to people about.

"Grandma knows that marrying a good wife is important, so she waited until you finished high school to marry a lady from a wealthy family. A mistress carefully trained by a wealthy family knows how to teach children better.

Do you think that grandma wants you to marry a noble lady just for her wealth and power? Then you underestimate grandma."

"Why would my grandson miss you so much, Grandma?" Yuan Qing hurriedly explained, "My grandson meant that Song Ying has the ability to make a living on his own, which is more important than learning to read and write, or learning etiquette and rules."

Worried that Tao still didn't understand, he further explained in simple terms, "Girls from wealthy families are taught how to be a mistress and handle the affairs of the inner house. Due to this limitation, this is all the mother can teach her children. Of course, these things are enough to maintain the family business.

However, Song Ying was able to plan for himself step by step and learn a skill even though he had nothing, and now he can support himself.

Even if something happens to her grandson in the future, she will be able to support the family on her own so that the family will not be scattered when the tree falls.

The grandson is a tree that can support a family. She is also a tree that can also support a family. However, the ladies of noble families do not learn to be trees, but to be flowers that depend on and embellish the family.

The descendants they teach are also flowers, but Song Ying can teach them to become trees. This way, even when I am old and no longer in the officialdom, my descendants will be able to stand firm."

Tao frowned and thought about it. The trees and flowers made her dizzy. She had to sort it out carefully.

Yuan Qing observed her expression and knew that she was relenting, and from an emotional perspective, he said, "Besides, my grandson hopes to be able to reach an agreement with his wife.

There can be someone in front of whom you can say whatever you want without having to think twice or weigh the pros and cons.

I can take off all my disguises in front of her and be my true self."

Tao's heart felt as if pricked by a needle. Outsiders said that her grandson was smart and could read since he was young.

But only as his grandmother did she know how much hardship he had gone through. When he was four years old, while other children still needed to be held in arms, he was already being taught by his father and grandfather how to hold a pen and write. With his small hands, it was difficult for him to even hold a pen.

Even in the coldest days of winter, when my fingers were covered with chilblains, I still had to get up early to write and read, and I never went to bed before three o'clock at night.

Because he is younger than his peers, he has been dignified and steady since he was young so as not to be looked down upon.

While other children in the village were shouting to go out and play, he had to sit at the desk and study since he was young. Once, someone gave her a bun, and she brought it back to him, but she saw him concentrating on looking at the boys playing outside the window, with envy in his eyes.

At that time, although she felt distressed, she had to put on a stern face and tell him to study hard, and then went out to drive away the children who were playing.

Looking back now, Qingwa didn't have any friends in the village, but after arriving at Jiahu Academy, he made friends with the son of the prefect.

But he was the son of the prefect after all. I wonder how much grievance Qingwa had endured in silence when interacting with him.

He would say this. Does he have to think again and again before talking to his classmates in the academy?